Leader Reads: How to Lead When You Aren't In Charge by Clay Scroggins

I'm a leader.  But I'm definitely not in charge.  This leadership book provided so much insight into not just how I see myself as a leader in my organization but how God sees me.  It helped me pace my plans and provided a blueprint for helping me shape not just how I lead others but how I see and lead myself.

I've always admired Clay's tenacity and storytelling and miss his weekly sermons.  I'm thankful that he was able to share his insight so keenly, clearly, and humorously with me.

I highly recommend this book for anyone - leader or not - struggling to find your fit professionally.


... leaders who consistently leverage their authority are far less effective in the long term than leaders who leverage their infuence.
— Clay Scroggins, "How To Lead When You Aren't In Charge"

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Mama Reads: Girl, Wash Your Face

Okay, like five people recommended this book to me over the past six months.  And finally. I was able to just sit down and devour it.  Devour is probably a proper adjective because I read this book like it was a huge piece of chocolate cake sitting on my kitchen counter while my kiddos were napping and I didn't want them to find out I was eating something they would want.

Rachel Hollis is authentically funny and mercilessly real.  She came into my life right when I needed her and told me that it was okay to just. be. me.

I *highly* recommend this book for all Mamas. 


decide that you care more about creating your magic and pushing it out into the world than you do about how it will be received.
— Rachel Hollis, "Girl, Wash Your Face"

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Life Lessons For My Little Loves

1.    Boyfriends do not get husband privileges.

2.    Just because he smells good doesn’t mean you can lose all your senses.

3.    Be cautious.

4.    Be gentle.

5.    Be honest.

6.    Be authentic.

7.    Sometimes, just. be. still.

8.    Pray.  Daily. For everyone.

9.    Be smart.  The world respects smart women.

10.    Just because you are smart doesn’t mean that you have to lose your femininity.  The two are not mutually exclusive.

11.    Throw caution to the wind.

12.    Allow your heart to be broken.

13.    Break someone else’s heart.  But not too many times.

14.    Dance.

15.    Be kind.

16.    Be fair.

17.    Lose your senses about a boy.

18.    Love hard.

19.    Love strong.

20.    Love fierce.

21.    Love yourself.

22.    Read the classics.

23.    Read a trashy romantic novel every once and while.

24.    Daydream about those trashy romance novel scenes.

25.     Realize that books and movies are made up.  Real life isn’t like that.

26.    Understand that if you wait long enough for the right person, real life is way better than those romantic novels and movies.

27.    Learn to cook.  More than just sandwiches and frozen waffles.

28.    Learn to change a tire.

29.    Pay for the date.

30.    Date a man that won’t let you pay.

31.    Call your Dad.  He loves you.

33.    Trust your sister.  She’s one of the few you can trust.

34.    Learn to write thank you notes.  And do it.

35.    Call your grandparents.

36.    Laugh.  Laugh a lot.

37.    Find a friend who isn’t the coolest but who is super cool to you.

38.    Do your own laundry.

39.    Save your money.

40.    Eat lunch (or dinner) in a restaraunt by yourself.  At least once a quarter.

41.    Read everything.

42.    Stay up on the news and politics.

43.    Don’t let friends borrow money & expect to be repaid.

44.    Learn to drive a stick shift.

45.    Take an art class.

46.    Get too much sun.

47.    Drink too much beer (when you are of age).

48.    Journal.  And journal.  And journal.

49.    Take a picture of yourself on every birthday.

50.    Don’t tell everyone your secrets.

51.    Eat healthy and establish healthy habits.

52.    Learn to love running.   When you are 35, it will be the only exercise that really works.

53.    Eat the damn cupcake.

54.    Celebrate everything life has to offer.

55.    Be careful about over indulging.

56.    Know about Pop Culture.

57.    Don’t only know about Pop Culture.

58.    Study history.

59.    Create. Create. Create.

60.    There is a difference between real friends and your girls.  Know that difference.

61.    Your value is not determined by your looks.

62.    Your value is not determined by your profession.

63.    Your value is not determined by your net worth.

64.    Your value is not determined by your possessions.

65.    Your value is not determined by your friend group.

66.    Your value is determined by your character.

67.    Pay for someone else’s dinner.  Annoynmously.

68.    Indulge.

69.    Order appetizers.  When you have the money.

70.    Be resourceful.

71.    And cheap.

72.    Drink coffee.

73.    Have an opinion.

74.    Be learned on the things you have an opinion about.

75.    Don’t settle.  In anything. For anyone.

76.    Marry a man that cooks.

77.    Don’t smoke.  

78.    At least once a month, spend the entire weekend in your pajamas watching crappy TV.

79.    Hike.

80.    Drive around with the windows (or top) down singing at the top of your lungs.

81.    Have a song.  Or five.

82.    Have a playlist of go to songs - they won’t fail you.

83.    Get the waffle cone.

84.    Vacation with your friends.

85.    Travel.

86.    Be a life-long learner and explore the world every chance you get.

87.    Don’t be afraid to fail.  You will. I promise.

88.    Care too deeply about something.

89.    Care too deeply about someone.

90.    Find yourself.

91.    Wash your hands.

92.    Wash your sheets.

93.    Clean up your messes.

94.    Make big messes.

95.    Read the poetry of Maya Angelou and Robert Frost and Walt Whitman.  For fun.

96.    Write stories.

97.    Never, ever doubt that -

98.    You are kind.

99.    You are smart.

100.    You are important.

 

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